As books and information get more specialized, it seems that the way we define and label emotions gets more general. Instead of emotions we have attitudes, and a choice of two: positive and negative. Sure, it’s best to be positive. But I’m here to say that it’s not illegal yet to express a negative emotion if you feel it.
I’m guilty of having an outburst of bitterness in front of a writer friend. Fortunately she is compassionate and didn’t say, “Well, have your little pity party” and turn on her heel and go tell everyone about my negative attitude.
When I emailed an apology she responded that bitterness is part of being a writer. It’s part of life. She had had her own recent difficulties. I would never have guessed. Maybe we writers, dedicated truth-tellers, ought to feel more often that we can tell one another when we are living with anger, grief, bitterness, envy, fear, frustration, or disappointment. I don’t mean “hold the world hostage with endless complaining.” I wanted to say (and did not say, from fear--how stupid is that??!!), “Why didn’t you call? Why did you suffer all alone? For years you have shared with me the intimacy of your poetry. If you needed to talk at two a.m. I am there for you, happy or sad--even if all we are to each other is just two writers!”
P.S. to those who say “pity party,” it’s evil of you to be sarcastic in the presence of human pain, and to label all such emotions as self-pity or “negativity.” Each emotion is specific and we have them for a reason. Bitterness, for example, is about waste. We are bitter when we abandon a project we thought would be great, when we wasted our time and effort, or when circumstances force us. If we don’t die, we get over it—and probably more quickly if we don’t hold ourselves, and the world, hostage to false and endless smiley-face. There's a reason that the "smiley" is not a human face.
Like everything else in publishing, terminology changes. One's manuscript was either accepted or rejected. Now, with writing contests so pervasive, if one finishes out of the money, one at least might "win" publication. It's really very nice of this contest to offer publication to nine -- a large number -- of also-rans. With a prize of publication they will surely feel like winners.
A truth is going bald here. "Winning" and "losing" was how writers always took the matter spiritually, although we said "acceptance" or "rejection." I am first to agree that "rejected" is a horrible name for the fact that an editor did not select my manuscript out of the 3,000 he received. But I'd rather my manuscript be "rejected" than have it labeled "a loser."
Do you prefer that too? You can still publish in periodicals without entering their contests. Publishers still accept "submissions"!
"Why Afghan Women Risk Death to Write Poetry"
Written by Catherine RankovicAs human rights diminish, the power of poetry increases. The most oppressed people depend the most on metaphor; that is, on poetry. I believe we are looking here at a version of our own future. Perhaps mass illiteracy will mean poems are called in to somebody who's literate. Perhaps we will even bypass the writing of poems and record them ourselves, and pass the recordings on to a middleman who can keep us anonymous yet get them disseminated; or we will just stand outside of our dwellings and speak our poems and people will gather around to hear the one who dares to speak.
Poetry is serious business!
The 13 Most Common Errors on a Novel's First Page
Written by Catherine Rankovic- Over-explanation. This includes prologues. "Prologues are never needed. You can usually throw them in the garbage. They're usually put on as a patch."
- Too much data. "You're trying to seduce your reader, not burden them," Friedman said.
- Over-writing, or "trying too hard." "We think the more description we add, the more vivid it will be; but we don't want to be distracted from the story" we open the book for.
- Beginning the novel with an interior monologue or reflection. Usually this is written as the thoughts of a character who is sitting alone, musing and thinking back on a story. Just start with the story.
- Beginning the novel with a flashback. Friedman isn't entirely anti-flashback, but the novel's opening page is the wrong place for one.
- Beginning a novel with the "waking up sequence" of a character waking, getting out of bed, putting on slippers, heading for the kitchen and coffee...a cliche
- Related cliche: beginning the novel with an alarm clock or a ringing phone
- Starting out with an "ordinary day's routine" for the main character
- She sees a lot of manuscripts beginning with "crisis moments" that aren't unique: "When the doctor said 'malignant,' my life changed forever..." or "The day my father left us I was seven years old..."
- Don't start with a dialogue that doesn't have any context. Building characterization through dialogue is okay anywhere else but there.
- Starting with backstory, or "going back, then going forward."
- Info dump. More formally called "exposition."
- Character dump, which is four or more characters on the first page.
And, Friedman said, the "biggest bad advice" about opening a novel is "Start with action." She said she thinks, "But I haven't been made to care about these characters yet." Ideally, the first page introduces a character the reader feels he or she knows and understands.
- The difference between poetry and prose is silence.
- Every poem is written on a backdrop of silence.
- The poem is packaged in silence.
- Rap is poetry that is afraid of silence.
- Silence is not monolithic; there are different kinds.
- Between every written word there is silence.
- Learning how to break lines is learning how to handle silence.
A former student had a carpenter husband who made this graceful box, and she brought it to me in thanks for the class, and it's gorgeously made and I love it. But what to put in it? For a long time I kept writing ideas for poems on passing scraps of paper, would lose them, and then lose the chance to write the poem, because the moment of conception, if not captured, never returns. I have actually gotten out of the shower to write down a fleeting idea, or stopped in the middle of a block, put down my things and got out some paper and a pen, and recommend this -- taking your ideas THIS seriously. respecting them THIS much -- to everyone who writes. I've written ideas on post-its and the backs of business cards and the strangest paper scraps. And when I want an idea I go to the idea box and poke around. Today's scrap, a recently inscribed one, said "Polite Applause." So I drafted a poem about polite applause. Yesterday's pick from the idea box was "Hostas." I got partway through it and finished it today. There's a scrap in there that says "Diana Cancer," as in "Her mother's Diana Cancer," and that idea needs to be thought out, but I think it's a good one. Oh, these scraps say all sorts of things, such as "A dinosaur bit me" and "bare metal." They needn't make sense. They're seeds of a poem. The idea box is my best way to keep intact ideas that need to wait.
If You Don't Come to My Reading, I Won't Come To Yours, Etc.
Written by Catherine RankovicA few "take attendance" at their readings, and micromanage their own attendance as if it were a game. Sure, a reading is a social event, and I like to see a crowd and familiar faces, and to chat and gab and catch up, and I know about give and take. But to hear that someone is "hurt" because so-and-so did not show up, or that he or she deliberately avoids events or book-buying until the score is evened -- well, that's a Christmas-card attitude. Either you send holiday cards because you like people and want to send good wishes for their holidays -- or you send cards to see if you'll get one in return, and if not, that's instant Memory Hole. At that point it's not about love anymore.
In fact I've started deleting. I asked advice about this, and was told, "Copy down the good lines you wrote before you delete. You might be able to use those good lines in other poems." In the larger scheme of things, what are my 100 or so unfinished poems but monuments to vanity and neglect? Is that what I want around me right now? Don't think so.
The poems are about the past!
Yes, indeed! From Captain Kangaroo to grape soda, to partying in the '80s, to way-back school days when they gave wiggly-block IQ tests, to the thirty-year-old spools in my sewing box (a what box!?!?!), to the Thresher submarine disaster in 1963 -- they're about the past! Yes, Galway Kinnell got away with writing a book titled The Past. It's been done.
Literary editors tend to be younger these days. We know for sure their screeners are very young. Remember how we used to glaze over when the old folks told us about Fibber McGee and Molly, etc.? How wonderful for us to remember the Sinclair dinosaur or the Gemini space program! And how incomprehensible and irrelevant to the young!
I've been writing poems that are like memoirs! A poem ain't a memoir!
I know "you write what you have to write," but I hope to consciously write more about the present and future. Thank you to Adrienne Rich, whom I now see kept her poetic focus on the present and future -- risky, in the way writing about the past is not.


